I decided to make a blog post from a recent response I wrote here and here are my following thoughts.
You hit the nail on the head when you said,
“And it is realizing this that we uncover a greater truth — the fact that we are currently an adult society of people putting money and wealth over helping others or fulfilling our truest emotional goals. I have many peers and colleagues whom have selected careers based on not what they truly want to do, but because it provides them with a bigger paycheck.”
I was convinced that our society was broken during my high school days. As a child, I too answered the age-old question, “What Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up” and it was always a teacher or nurse. But I had no clue how to make it a reality.
My mother attended a business school to receive her degree. She become a manager at several Subways. That quickly became useless after countless trips to the hospital because of one thing or another. Since then, she has worked part-time at a bakery, mainly for the benefits.
My father has a small, but successful window cleaning business. It’s a one man show. It wasn’t unit he was laid off after 15 years of service at one of the top oil companies in California. The oil company was bought out and the new management required everyone to take an exam to “prove” you knew your job. He did not pass. Not for the lack of knowledge when it came to his job, but for the face that the majority of the questions were geared for a college graduate. For my father has an 8th grade education, which also resulted in another mark against him: the requirement of having a high school diploma or GED. Thankfully, by default, his part-time side business became his full-time income.
Discussing dreams, college or the future was not included in any family meeting. Maybe because they were so focused on the church going/prove to everyone that we love Jesus life, rather than the reality of what my future might actually be. Maybe because they never had that conversation with their parents, resulting in mirroring the same actions with their children. I really don’t know.
Our oldest daughter is 6 years old and now that I am a parent, we make it a point to have these types of conversations. I believe part of my role as a parent is to pay attention to the raw talents that my children have and learn ways to enhance them. For instance, my oldest daughter loves the fashion industry and drawing. She is enjoys creating new outfits out of my leftover scraps (material for sewing) and sometimes I am shocked and think, this is something I can see people wearing. Over the past year, I’ve picked out books to teach her step by step instructions on how to draw new and interesting things. By doing this, I feel like it teaches her about the “unknown” and allow her to also branch off by making it her own. As for the leftover scraps, she’s lucky to have a grandmother who can sew anything in the world. I called her and asked if she would be interested in teaching my daughter the basics. Of course she said yes and that she would love to teach her everything she knows. We start in two weeks!
In the end, I am more interested in investing the love, time and money into the dreams of my children– already enhancing the beautiful raw talent within them, than any fleeting fad that may come along and disappear.